Thursday, July 19, 2012

Those People Who...

... Maintain blogs but only post when they have something "good" to say, like a weight loss or a change in measurements....Annoy me!  This is, obviously, just my opinion, but I feel that if you are going to have a blog that you want people to read, then post more than just the good.  Some people will have months where they go backward. Instead of writing about it they avoid posting anything at all.

Why?

I have my ideas...

One... They only want others to see the good things that they do. They don't want to admit to the "bad" (for lack of a better word, but that I'll now be using to describe those not-so-good moments) because of how they might appear. You're not perfect. We ALL have moments, days, weeks, whatever when we slip into the bad. I think that by posting everything you are more real to your readers. They can relate to you better. If you have a bad day, that's okay! Share it. Someone else probably had a similar day.  Only posting the positive is like giving others an illusion that you're perfect. You're not.  When you don't post unless it's something you're bragging about, it is noticed.  I'm sure I'm not the only intelligent reader who can come up with conclusions and see through it.

Two...They want attention. They simply maintain a blog, highlighting the good, to gain attention and praise from others.  Usually when you're participating in the bad, you don't get that praise. You might even get criticism (or encouragement perceived as criticism). If you're sharing your journey in order to share your journey then you shouldn't be expecting praise.  You should do it to share your story and give others another example of how to lose weight or get healthy.

Okay, I guess I only had two. I was thinking there were three but it's escaped my mind. Hmmm...Should I go back and delete this because I forgot what I was going to say? I wouldn't want anyone to think I'm capable of forgetting something! Sarcasm.

I maintain this blog and post pretty much everything that relates to my journey...Unless it's something super personal or super gross, I share. My point of writing is to show where I've come, to share workout ideas, tips, healthy foods...Whatever someone else may find helpful. 

On Monday I had an awful day in terms of exercise. I summarized it and was actually going to post about it but was then too tired. Am I the only person, ever, to have a bad workout day? Certainly not! Why would I not post about it? I want someone reading to know that if they're having a crappy day, I have too. Despite my weight loss success and my view on healthy living...I have my days.

Monday I was not into the idea of working out. It was my long run day and I was absolutely dreading it. I knew it had to be done so I forced myself. Usually those workouts aren't great because my mind is already in a negative place.  It was hot and humid, which made the idea of running even less appealing. I also ran on the treadmill which gets boring. I had a bit of a headache and felt pretty sluggish (which I later realized was because I wasn't feeling well).  My phone, which I use for music, froze so I had to stop and reboot that (I cannot run without music...SO BORING). 

Then there was my left shoe. That freakin' thing kept coming untied. I know how to tie my shoes, but no matter how tight it would loosen and come untied. I think I stopped four or five times to tie it. I was at a point where it was so frustrating I was ready to take it off and throw it. That would've accomplished nothing, but it would've gotten a little of my frustration out.  I love my shoes but UA, you make the laces too long!!

 All of these little things combined and just got to me. I took a good five minute break during my run to just sit and cry. I cried because I didn't want to run. I cried because I wanted to quit but I knew I wouldn't let myself. I cried because I was frustrated. I cried because I was tired (and probably because I didn't feel well).  I cried just because I needed to....Because that run felt like torture. 

I honestly do not go into every run with a happy, positive, "I'm so excited!" attitude.  Sometimes I workout because I feel I HAVE to, not because I want to.  Most days I do want to workout but every now and then I try to resist with all I have. I usually lose the battle to  quit  because the part of me that says "you're doing it" is stronger than the part of me that resists.

I had a bad day. I shared it. Will you now think less of me because I had a bad day this week?  I'm going to guess that most of you will say "no."  Why? I'm a person. I'm not perfect. We all have bad days.

There's nothing wrong with sharing your accomplishments.  There is also nothing wrong with sharing the bad things that happen. You're human. You may sit behind a computer screen but you are not a machine. If someone has a genuine interest in reading your blog, it's because they have a similar interest as you do (or they're a friend or family member, or some random nosey person who doesn't care but likes to read...all of which are okay).  I know that if I'm reading a personal blog for a specific reason, I want to know that the person I'm reading about is human. I want to know that they struggle sometimes. It makes them easier to relate to. It also makes me feel less pressure to try to be perfect....Even though I know I'm not.

I hope that you can find comfort in the fact that despite my success and my hard work, I struggle sometimes too.  I hope that you can relate to me. I hope that you realize that it is okay to have a bad day.

XOXO



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